by OldGuy » 04 Dec 2022, 23:49
I have had times living alone and I have had times I shared with roommates over the last 60+ years since leaving my family home. Some roommates have been perfectly fine but others have been nothing but headaches. If you don't really know them before agreeing to be roommates, it is a crap shoot.
I've had roommates who are outright slobs, messing up every area of the home just by walking through. I've had roommates who are thieves. Not only raiding the refrigerator and stealing my food, but even coming into my room to steal money, clothes, even stereo equipment or worse. I've had roommates who just won't pick up their share of the housework or paying their share of the rent or utilities. I've had roommates who brought in strangers and have even given out keys so they can come and go on their own. I had one roommate who pointed a gun at me during an argument and had to call in the police. I've gone through the proceeding of a court ordered eviction process to get rid of them. Those kinds of roommates are far more common than anything else.
On rare occasions, I have had decent roommates that actually do what they are supposed to do to keep the place livable, pick up after themselves, pay the bills on time, buy their own food, don't steal and even respect my privacy.
My last roommate was about 10 years older. We were both retired so age was not an issue. We were not buddies; just shared the apartment and expenses. We got along perfectly fine for years. However, his health began to deteriorate and bit by bit it transitioned into a full time caretaker situation. I was sort of stuck taking care of his every need, even helping him sit on the pot to do his duty. I bought a battery operated doorbell. I put the button on his walker and the bell in my room. There were many midnight emergency calls.
When he died, I was left with all his stuff. No one else was left to inherit anything so I guess I got it all as a sort of payment for the years of care in his final years. Problem was, I could not afford that apartment on my own, so I advertised for another roommate. All replies were so horrid I opted to move to a smaller place I could afford on my own. I am not likely to ever want a roommate again.
There are online lists of questions you can share with a potential roommate before you decide to move in together and you really need to discuss those questions and answers in advance. This is just one example.
https://questionsgems.com/questions-to- ... re%20itemsDo your research before you settle on a potential roommate. You can get stuck with a real stinker if you don't. Even then, their honesty could still leave you with a rat you wish you never met. Include a discussion on how to go your separate ways if it does not work out. Write up an agreement that you both sign. You will need that document if you ever have to take it to court for enforcement.