[grecy0905]

Have you sent an email to your application and you do get a reply from them or an invitation to get an interview? Have you send a message to follow up on something and they do not reply to you? Have you been sending an invitation via email to people at work, colleague or anyone you know but they did not get back to you?

The feeling of getting blown off and ignored makes you think nobody likes you. It is like you don’t exist on anybody. Do you think it has something to do with you? To all the messages, emails and job application you send to people might feel bad but don’t take it personally. The truth is, it has nothing to do with you.

According to the book The Four Agreement by Don Miguel, Agreement no. 2 is to Don’t take anything personally. Anything means everything like phrases, criticism, quotes or anything anyone says personally. You don’t have to judge every failure to communicate is a rejection. The other person’s reason should regard as valid to lessen the feelings like that. If you feel ignored and that makes you feel bad, always think that no one is willing to hurt you. You just need to tell yourself to don’t take it personally.

Here’s are the Tip You Should Do to Avoid the feeling of Blown Off

Don’t take it Personally
The moment that you feel that it is against you when you do not receive a reply from a people, community, agency and the likes, it means you are self-centered and kind of little selfish. If the other people is lying about the reason they give to you once you follow up from them, then it is not about you again but it is them. If they are lying, then they are fooling themselves, not you. Do not feel it is all about you. As soon as you know the reason you need to free yourself into feeling bothered about it. Consider thinking that lots of people are overwhelmed with their job and anything they could be busy at. You must apply understanding and patience instead. No one is perfect.

Put the Shoe on the Other Foot
This is to remind you about the times that you failed to reply to someone at work. For sure, you do not intend that to happen. If you put your shoe on the other foot or by putting yourself in someone’s position once it took so long for you to reply to them, then that is the best one to describe what you are feeling. Everyone is surely doing their best in life and so you are. This will make you understand the real picture.

Do a Follow Up and Do It Nicely
Sometimes people makes mistakes of not replying to you because they fail to receive your message. Sometimes they are flooded with messages that they need to apply prioritization. They filter email by scanning what is important for the time being. If you do a follow-up and make the message sounds friendly it is one of the best you could do, professionally. You even helped them to get back to you because they will be alerted about your follow up. Be compassionate with people. If they feel it to your message, of course, they will feel ashamed of what they did and will get back to you. If you did not receive any reply, then maybe you have to move on.

[peachpurple]

very good tips. There are these problems when you are working with others in the same company or with other suppliers. Have to give and take and realize that not everything is the other party's fault. Have to look at own's problem too, where the source is.

[grecy0905]

very good tips. There are these problems when you are working with others in the same company or with other suppliers. Have to give and take and realize that not everything is the other party's fault. Have to look at own's problem too, where the source is.

And also understanding, you really need to put your shoes on someone and believe that they are not intended to make happen like that. If they intend that to, then this is not your problem anymore. They are not being true to you.

[ken alto]

Thanks for the tips. It's not necessarily that you are being ignored when you do not get a reply. You need to do a follow up to identify the reason behind why you never got a reply before making a conclusion. Try to understand the other person. But if you find out that truly they ignored you,know you have to move on. Nice article.

-- 07 May 2017, 20:39 --

very good tips. There are these problems when you are working with others in the same company or with other suppliers. Have to give and take and realize that not everything is the other party's fault. Have to look at own's problem too, where the source is.

Sure. You need also to consider your part in that. You might be the cause of it all yet you are blaming others. It won't help in any way.

[WorkAtHomeGal]

Great tips here. I think it is important to do a nice follow up when it comes to jobs. Especially since a lot of jobs in my area prefer you emailing them a resume or setting up a profile with your resume on their website. Of course I still deliver in person but most seem to be send through email. I know for me I more got the feeling that I wasn't the right fit or if its someone friend wise, I think they are mad at me. A good thing to remember though especially with jobs is that there probably is a flood of resumes coming in and that is sure to slow things down.

[cmoneyspinner]

* * My late mother used to say "Pay attention. I might be telling you something that will save your life."
If that doesn't make you want to listen, I don't know what will.

[grecy0905]

Great tips here. I think it is important to do a nice follow up when it comes to jobs. Especially since a lot of jobs in my area prefer you emailing them a resume or setting up a profile with your resume on their website. Of course I still deliver in person but most seem to be send through email. I know for me I more got the feeling that I wasn't the right fit or if its someone friend wise, I think they are mad at me. A good thing to remember though especially with jobs is that there probably is a flood of resumes coming in and that is sure to slow things down.

And also they need to assume not to take it personally because everyone involves at work are surely busy. However, it will be appreciated even an auto reply on their emails because people who sent messages are really waiting for a reply. Auto reply could be consider as a reply but they make sure to reply to the mails regardless of the volume they are getting.

[Angie10]

You know, in the case of prospective employers not bothering to send even generic letters out of courtesy; as annoying and frustrating as it is, I quickly move on from it because it's become more and more common now because companies use the excuse of receiving truck loads of applications and simply can't be bothered to type ONE generic email that then goes to every single applicant. It's the sign of the times, I guess

[grecy0905]

You know, in the case of prospective employers not bothering to send even generic letters out of courtesy; as annoying and frustrating as it is, I quickly move on from it because it's become more and more common now because companies use the excuse of receiving truck loads of applications and simply can't be bothered to type ONE generic email that then goes to every single applicant. It's the sign of the times, I guess

Not giving generic response that they received your email looks unprofessional on me because it gives an impression that they will just act of what you give when they have time.

[Happyland]

You provided us with some good tips. Is there a time when we should just take the loss ( the L) and leave? I have seen some people really force an issue which lead to greater turmoil. Sometimes what seems like a bad situation can really be a good thing. It can increase our awareness of a new thing. Leaving can be good because there is always the possibility of something better for us existing out there. Thousands of opportunities exist for new friends, new job, new location, or new other situations. Even Jesus told people that if anyone will not welcome you or receive your words then dust off your feet and leave that place as a testimony against them. They went into other lands and preached. Which means they were successful. There are other opportunities in your life that are better.

[grecy0905]

You provided us with some good tips. Is there a time when we should just take the loss ( the L) and leave? I have seen some people really force an issue which lead to greater turmoil. Sometimes what seems like a bad situation can really be a good thing. It can increase our awareness of a new thing. Leaving can be good because there is always the possibility of something better for us existing out there. Thousands of opportunities exist for new friends, new job, new location, or new other situations. Even Jesus told people that if anyone will not welcome you or receive your words then dust off your feet and leave that place as a testimony against them. They went into other lands and preached. Which means they were successful. There are other opportunities in your life that are better.

I agree, bad things really keep you aware, even in general.Like problems, if you do not experienced it, you will not learn and be careful the next time. You can't help others when they have the same problem.

[Happyland]

Yes there is a good side to things that are bothersome. We can learn, grow and get better. You used the word aware which is a good word. We have to be aware of opportunities to develop ourselves and stay in motion towards a future filled with hope.

[Mia96]

They really are excellent tips, I really agree with what you said about not taking it personally. Sometimes I tend to take rejection badly and reflects on my behavior and self worth really badly but deep down I know it has nothing to do with me.

[grecy0905]

They really are excellent tips, I really agree with what you said about not taking it personally. Sometimes I tend to take rejection badly and reflects on my behavior and self worth really badly but deep down I know it has nothing to do with me.

You should always think about it has nothing to do with you, even sometimes you are feeling that way. Me, what i do is putting my shoes on their shoes. Maybe they are just busy or maybe it has not met their expectations and criteria that is why they better not reply if they will have no good words to say.

[chikitta]

I have actually gone through worse situations before when I felt rejected and blown off. But sometimes I even surprise myself when I turn out to be stronger than I thought. The thing i always tell myself is that life doesn't have to stop after a failure instead i should keep trying because that could not be my job or interview. There is probably something better for me ahead. You just need to keep speaking to yourself positively that's the key.

[ceci]

Thanks for tips, never take it personally. I try not to judge the situation too early and not even think why other people didn't act in this way or like me.Just let everyone live in their own style.

[augusta]

Nice tips there.I believe it not yet over until it totally over,whatever the outcome is,it always good to follow it up and in a courteous way too.